Take a
minute to complete the following quiz to find out whether you may be a Dragon
in disguise?!?!?
1. If my daughter came home in a skirt that your ex dressed her in that you
do no approve of, you would:
- Think it is ugly but say nothing,
maybe only some complaints to your best friend or partner
- Call up your ex and say how ugly
you think the skirt is
- Immediately take the skirt off
your daughter, put it on yourself and dance around the kitchen mocking it
in front of your daughter, than send it off to the Goodwill as you don't
see it as appropriate
2. Your daughter is away for the weekend at your ex's. You decide to call
his house to talk to your daughter. He does not answer the phone so you leave a
message, unbeknownst to you that he and the kids are at friends for
dinner. After this you would:
- Not be too concerned about getting
a phone call back as she is only gone for the weekend and you will see her
tomorrow night
- Wait anxiously for the phone call.
You stew for an hour and decide to call back again. When there is no
answer again, you stew for the rest of the night.
- Wait anxiously for the phone call.
You stew for an hour and decide to call back again. When there is no
answer again, you call back another 10 times in the next half hour. You
than text your ex several times telling him how pissed off you are that he
has not returned your phone call. You than justify the 12 phone calls in
1.5 hours saying that you were entitled to talk to your daughter as you
promised you would call.
3. You ended the marriage as you left for another woman. Several months
later your ex-husband starts dating. You find out who it is. You would:
- Not care too much as you left him.
You would be happy for him and hope that it works out for the best.
- You are a bit jealous and resentful
that he has moved on. You talk with people in town about this girl, seeing
what dirt you can dig up on her. With this "dirt" you make some
digs to your ex about this girl
- You are super jealous and
resentful as you feel no one can replace you - you may not want him, but
you don't want anyone else to have him either. You dig threw his phone to
find out who he is talking to and immediately start sending obscene
harassing text messages to her. You even send a Facebook message to her
ex-husband and post messages on your Facebook wall about this girl, even
using her first and last name. You call her obscene names in public
domains. In essence, you demean her for months and continuously
intimidate and harass her.
4. You ex-husband mentions that he and his new family have booked a
cottage and would like his daughter to join them. It is almost 5 months in
advance of the booking. You generally only know your schedule 3 weeks in
advance and given that you job share, this makes it easy for you to adjust your
work schedule.
- You think it sounds like great fun
and that your daughter will enjoy spending time with her Dad and step
siblings. You agree.
- You are not happy about this
cottage get away because you worry that your daughter will love it so much
and will take the attention away from you. You also love control. You make
a stink about it but agree after some long winded arguing.
- You are not happy about this
cottage get away because you worry that your daughter will love it so much
and will take the attention away from you. You also love control. You make
a stink about it. You tell him he should have asked you first before he
booked the cottage, despite the fact that it is common knowledge that
cottages require months of advance booking and you take what you get. When
he asks again you ignore his communication. Weeks go on and you still
ignore him. You finally drop off a note about 2.5 months before in his
mail box saying that you do not agree with the week as you have 3 days off
that week and it is your time with your daughter. You force him to have to
go to court to request the week. You only agree to the week when you are
strong-armed by the legal system to do so. Lots of money spent
unnecessarily.
5. Your ex-husband is apparently working a bit later. He is scheduled to
have his daughter for his routine 4 hour weekly visit. His girlfriend of
over a year comes to pick up his daughter.
- You greet her at the door and send
off your daughter with a kiss. It is no issue to you that she came as
often you have your partner do the same when you are unavailable.
- You angrily answer the door and
exchange a few unpleasant words with his girlfriend. But then send your
daughter off as it is his court order scheduled access time. You make sure
you send a few bitchy texts to your ex about it all.
- You angrily answer the door and
exchange a few unpleasant words with his girlfriend. You refuse to allow
for her to take your daughter. Your daughter watches all this from the
living room window. Your daughter also watches her walk away and can be
heard asking “why am I not going mom”. You make sure you send a few
bitchy texts to your ex about it all.
6. A
week later your ex-husbands mom has to come by and get your daughter as he
again had to work a bit later.
- You have a brief conversation with
her before you send off your daughter. This is her maternal grandmother
and you respect that relationship.
- You angrily answer the door and
exchange a few unpleasant words with his Mother. But then send your
daughter off. You make sure you send a few bitchy texts to your ex about
it all.
- You angrily answer the door and
exchange a few unpleasant words with his grandmother. Your daughter
watches all this from the living room window. She actually comes out
several times asking when she is going and the last time comes out with
her jacket and boots on and says "gramma I am ready". You
refuse to allow for her to take your daughter. Your daughter also
watches her grandmother walk away to the car from the front window. You
make sure you send a few bitchy texts to your ex about it all.
7. You drop off your daughter at your ex's house. His ex's girl friend
is waiting for you to pull out of the driveway so she can pull in. Her son is
in the backseat.
- You pull out, give a wave, and
drive off.
- You take your time pulling out and
ignore her.
- You take your time pulling out,
than as you pass by you give her the middle finger. But then when your ex
gives you trouble about it you totally deny it.
8. Your
ex has met a new girl. Your daughter seems to like her.
- You are happy for him that he has
met someone else and even more pleased that she is kind to your daughter
and that your daughter likes her so well. You never say anything bad
about her; you actually try to speak highly about her, since she is
important to your daughter.
- You aren't too impressed that he
has met someone else and even more bothered by the fact that your daughter
likes her. You tell her that you do not want to hear her talk about this
new girl.
- You aren't too impressed that he
has met someone else and even more bothered by the fact that your daughter
likes her. You tell her that you do not want to hear her talk about this
new girl. You also tell your daughter that she is mean, that she is
a big baby, and that you do not like her. When this new girlfriend and
your ex ask you if you could stop calling her names in front of your
daughter, you turn around and tell your daughter that your Daddy's girl friend
yelled at you and is "mean". Of course you deny it all
later.
9. Your ex's new girlfriend and wife to be has a son. Your daughter has
started to call him her brother.
- You think this is cute. She seems
to really adore this boy and he is going to be her step-brother soon
enough.
- You are pissed. Who told her
that?
- You are pissed. Who told her that?
You tell her he is not her brother and don't call him that again. You call
your ex and give him an ear full.
10. Your ex wants to have your daughter’s birth certificate to go over
to a kids attraction in the USA.
- You openly give it to him. You see
no issue and actually think it all sounds like fun.
- You say no he can't have it.
- You tell him he can. Than the next
morning when he is due to come and pick it up, minutes before he is
supposed to leave with the kids, you tell him no he cannot have it. You
love the fact that he had all these plans and you ruined it last
minute.
11. Your ex's girl friend is pregnant.
- You are happy for him. He is a
great Dad and always wanted more children.
- You are not happy. This better not
take away attention from your daughter. You tell your ex that you are not
happy about this.
- You are not happy. This better not
take away attention from your daughter. You immediately text your ex
telling him that he has been trapped and other obscene things. You than
his girlfriend at the arena and yell at her in front of her son and your
daughter, saying she trapped him. You than go on a rant to your ex. You go
around town telling people that she trapped him. You tell everyone that at
your work and even post a message on Facebook about it. You also go on
about how it likely isn't even his child anyway.
12. You
are the soccer coach for your daughter's team. You organize an end of the year
celebration in the park by the soccer fields after the last game.
- You make sure your ex knows about
it so he can see his daughter get her metal and enjoy a cupcake.
- You tell your ex that there is a
celebration but that you don't want his girlfriend there.
- You tell your daughter to keep the
celebration a secret. This is because you do not want your ex to know
about it. He later finds out a few days later after the celebration and
you tell him you had every right to do that because you were the coach and
you wanted the time all to yourself.
13. Your ex owes you some money. He comes to pick up his
daughter.
- You remind him that he owes you
the money. He tells you he will have it for you as soon as possible. You
say no problem.
- You remind him that he owes you
the money. He says he doesn't have it on him. You make a big stink
about it. You make sure you rant to him for a while.
- You remind him that he owes you
the money. He says he doesn't have it on him. You make a big stink
about it. You make sure you rant to him for a while. You refuse to allow
for him to have his daughter until you see the money. He leaves and comes
back. You hand over your daughter and laugh and say "hahah...I was
holding her for ransom". The cheque was for $67.50, well worth the
turmoil eh?
14. Your ex tells you that he has been asked to work overtime on Sunday
and if you would like your daughter Sunday or he can find a sitter. It is
Saturday night and he is supposed to have your daughter for the duration of the
weekend. He then sends you a text that plans have changed and he doesn't need
to go in.
- You are happy because he loves
spending time with his daughter.
- You are happy because you had
plans Sunday. You send him a text and say he had better not be
lying.
- You don't believe him. You want
your daughter back as she sure as hell is not spending time with that
"ho". You show up on his door step at 9 p.m. His parents are
just leaving and he is apparently upstairs putting your daughter to bed. For
45 minutes you ring the doorbell over and over and refuse to leave. You
exchange some very unpleasant words with his Mother. You threaten to
punch out your ex's girlfriend and say some very rude things to her in
front of your ex's Mother. The police have to come to ask you to
leave.
15. It is the day of the annual Easter in the Park. Your
daughter is with your ex that weekend. You assume your ex is taking your
daughter along with his fiancé and her son.
- You hope they go. You went last
year and it was fun. Your ex will love taking her.
- You are pissed because you don't
want them having the fun.
- You and your partner decide to sit
in your car in the parking lot waiting to see if they show up. When you
see them coming across the field of the park you get out of the car and
approach them. You lure your daughter away from them and have
her participate in the festivities with you. You than
return her to her Dad at the end of it all. You could care less that he
took her and that your daughter didn't get to hunt with her step brother.
16. You go to court. The judge clearly states in his endorsement that he
assigns more blame to you with respect to bringing the child into the
conflict.
1. Well
you would never bring a child into the middle of adult conflict. So this would
never happen.
2. You
clearly deny any ownership over this. The judge has no idea what he is talking
about.
3. You clearly
deny any ownership over this. The judge has no idea what he is talking
about. Additionally you ignore the justice's order to refrain from
pulling the child into the conflict and continue to use her time with her
father as a punishment when you are angry and speak poorly in front of the
child about her father and his family.
17. You go to court. The judge clearly states in his endorsement that you
are to use the father as primary babysitter.
1. Well
duh, of course you would. He is the father and deserves to spend all the
quality time he can with his daughter. So again this would never happen.
2. Yes, I
am at fault. I have not used the father in the past because I could, because I
love control. But I will consider the judge's endorsement in this regard in the
future - maybe.
3. I am
not going to do anything the judge says. I live above the law. Yes I have not
used the father as caregiver when I could, because I like the control and I
fear him having too much time with my daughter and getting too close with her.
There will be countless opportunities over the next several months where I could
call upon the father to care give when I am endlessly unavailable
pursuing my own selfish needs. But I won't and I will use every excuse
possible to not use him.
Points
Give
yourself the following points for each answer:
Answered
1 - zero points
Answered
2 - 1 point
Answered
3 - 2 points
Results
0 points: You are a kind human being. I am sure you make mistakes in
your life, but you try your best to be an amicable cooperative friendly and
empathetic human being.
1 to 17: You are
borderline dragon (see below).
18 to 34: You
are a dragon. You are controlling, manipulative, angry, resentful, bitter,
miserable, greedy, irrational, immature, cruel, and non-empathetic; you lie and
have an inability to admit wrong doing. You leave behind you a path of
destruction. You see no good in anyone, you are extremely judgmental. You
love to make others life miserable.