Let the Abuse Continue…And Deny it

Quote From Dragon to Max (I have bolded the parts I want to draw the readers eye to):

“Jessie is not in conflict when you come to the door. Yes, I would like for Jessie to see us communicating and saying Hi to each other in the near future. I welcome this.

As a parent I do not think it is safe to allow Jessie to walk alone to your vehicle.  For this reason, I am not sending Jessie out the front door alone.  You are welcome to come to the door and get her.  Again, when you come to get her, please come to the door, I will NOT send her out alone.  It is unsafe.  I like always will not say a word to you.”

This comes as a response to Max indicating that he refuses to come to the door at the Dragon Den upon pick up and drop off. This is not a demand that came spontaneously as a result of him not wanting to see her ugly face.  It is a result of several incidents at the door whereby Jessie is thrown into the line of fire by her own Mother. And Max had enough. He needed to protect Jessie and this boundary was one means of doing so. This was the latest incident that led him to draw this boundary in Jessie’s defense.  

Max goes to pick Jessie up at the Dragon Den. Couple days before the Dragon had mentioned that she had some paper work for Max and he also had some paperwork for her to review and sign. He notified Dragon the night before that instead of picking Jessie up at 8a.m. he would come 10 minutes early so they could sign paperwork and still be timely for Dragon to get off to work.

He shows up on her doorstep ten minutes to eight as suggested. She opens the door and begins her raging rant, with Jessie standing right beside her. She was mad that Max didn’t pick up the phone the night before and she made sure she expressed viciously how angry she was that he did not respond to her call. He reminded her that no message was left and what the issue anyway.  She was mad that he missed Mother’s day on the schedule he drafted. Innocent oversight he said, it can be adjusted.

 After she ranted for 5 minutes she angrily tells Max that he is not getting Jessie until 8a.m. as per the schedule, she pulls Jessie into the house from the door and slams the door in Max’s face. Jessie could be heard behind the door saying “Dad, Mom said you can’t take me yet sorry.” Jessie than runs over to the front window and waves at her dad who is standing on the front porch, in frigid January temperature. Promptly at 8a.m. the door opens and out comes Jessie.

Despicable really.  Endless examples of Dragon failing to see how she is abusing her own daughter by throwing her in the line of fire and involving her in adult conflict. Her job as a Mother is to protect and shelter her daughter from conflict NOT throw her in the middle of it. Dragon doesn’t care, she cares about one person – herself.

Oh, and for the record. Max didn’t miss Mother’s Day on the schedule. Dragon was looking at the wrong day. He had it right. Worth all the upset wasn’t it Dragon.

Back to the beginning of my entry: “Jessie is not in conflict when you come to the door. I like always will not say a word to you.”

These words in an email from Dragon came within 1-week of the incident described. Is she in denial? Is it that she rages and her mind goes black and truly does forget her words and actions?

So than my question to Dragon is...what is more unsafe? Jessie having to walk from her Dad's vehicle up to the home and waving back when she sees her Mother inside OR having to walk up with her Dad to the door and being exposed to Dragon rage? 

I choose the later.