A friend of mine said recently – “now that Max’s ex has a
new boyfriend, maybe she will back off a bit?” Her rationale is if she is
happier she will spend less of her energy attempting to deflect her misery in
being unreasonable, demanding and controlling.
Well one could hope. And one would think that perhaps some happiness
would help in the situation. But one would be wrong.
The Dragon has been reportedly dating this boyfriend now for
several months now. He and his children have met Jessie. Yet, my Dragon friend is as unreasonable,
demanding and controlling in this new relationship as she was without. So in essence, she – the evil controlling
narcissistic monster – is here to stay.
A friend, who works with the Dragon, recently wrote me a note that
resonated with me as it was so apparent how transparent my Dragon friend truly
is:
“Yes Carmen is a
very strange individual and everyone sees her phoniness. She probably likes to
stir the pot because she knows you are such a better mom, friend and a
beautiful person, much better that what she could ever be. She is just jealous
you have such a good life and she is so unhappy in hers. I always live by the
motto Karma, and she will see it all for herself someday.”
So to go back to the original optimistic query
regarding the Dragon backing off a bit with this new man in her life, it is
evident this is not conceivable as she obviously remains so deeply unhappy. The
toxic emotions of jealousy and resentment continue to cloud her. Until these
feelings are dealt with and she truly does move on, we will remain targets on
her in path of destruction.
With that said, I may be naive in
thinking that she is capable of moving on and in positively dealing with her
feelings and emotions. I may have to succumb to the fact that
she may never be able to relinquish control and engage in cooperating like a
reasonable mature adult. She may never
feel happy, or grateful or emphatic. Perhaps once a Dragon, always a Dragon?
There may always be another chapter in
the Dragon Diaries.
Again - my life!! We thought the same thing when our "dragon" met someone and then got married last year. Nope, same shit different day. She kept the kids again this weekend knowing we were moving into a new house and wanted them here to set up their rooms. Won't allow the kids to call or answer their phones and then we find out she was out drinking last night. I will NEVER understand the logic that it's better to have the kids home alone then with their dad, stepmom and step brother. It's been 4 years now since this started, over a year that she's been "happily" married and has yet to even ease up. Like you said, until they are happy with their own lives they will never allow you to be happy in yours.
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